Comments on: Our stillborn story: Ian Colby Young

By: Sibling Loss: 7 Essential Tips to Help your Child Grieve

Sibling Loss: 7 Essential Tips to Help your Child Grieve — Mon, 12 Aug 2019 16:00:23 +0000

[…] we lost our Ian, (read his full story here) I wanted to curl up in a ball and cry, which I definitely did. But, I also wanted to be strong for […]

By: Tile - Never lose things again! - Among the Young

Tile - Never lose things again! - Among the Young — Wed, 08 Nov 2017 17:00:29 +0000

[…] you’ve read my story about Ian, you know that we lost our sweet angel boy at 21 weeks. We met with a grief counselor and she gave […]

By: Kaylynn Zoe

Kaylynn Zoe — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:43:18 +0000

In reply to Stephanie.

Oh my sweet Stephanie. I am so sorry I am just now responding. I wish I could give you a big hug. I see you mama – I get you.

I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet Emilia Rose – it really NEVER gets easier. One day I’ll be fine and the next I was an emotional wreck. I expect BIG days to be hard (Christmas, his birthday, his due date) but it’s the little days that sneak up on me and make be break down.

I remember the days/weeks/months after I lost. I was in a haze – I couldn’t take care of myself, let alone my 4 year old. It was SO hard and the guilt was overwhelming. For me, getting pregnant again was SO healing – it saved me and scooped me out of the deepest grief. (https://amongtheyoung.com/joy-always-comes-after-sorrow/) The fear was real – what if this happens again? – but we were closely watched the entire pregnancy and I was an emotional basket case. Everyone is different, but for me – getting pregnant again was the answer.

I know your comment is a few months old, but know that you are not alone. Hugs mama.

By: A Thank You letter to Alton Brown - Among the Young

A Thank You letter to Alton Brown - Among the Young — Tue, 12 Sep 2017 20:44:20 +0000

[…] October 2014 I delivered my son at 21 weeks – he was born still. (Read our full story.) We had never known sorrow or loss like that and it crushed us. Doing basic, everyday things would […]

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 05 Jul 2017 21:07:49 +0000

It’s been a week. I lost my sweet Emilia Rose a week ago. She was 21 weeks gestation. She was perfect. All I have left is a picture of her hands and feet. The hurt is raw and fresh. My tummy is shrinking and there are no more baby kicks where they used to be. Her ashes are on my bedside table, I still don’t know if it is good for me to look at them everyday and go back into the sadness.
I stumbled across your blog and read most of you posts on losing Ian. I’m so sorry you had to experience this too. Although like you said, it is something I would never trade and never want to forget.
I am wondering how long it took before you started to feel better emotionally? A month? A couple months? Longer?
Did getting pregnant again help you heal?
I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old. We don’t know if we should try again after losing our third. I am scared this might happen again to the next baby.
I feel incomplete and lost 10% of the day and the other 90% of my day is consumed by my sweet kiddos and their never ending needs and cuteness.
Anyways…thank you for your blog posts. I know this is an old post but I found your story comforting and your words touched my heart.